Love People For Who They AreJan 27, 2023 07:39PM ● By Dr. Rodger
Do you know what is really tough? Loving people for who they are…Not who we want them to be, not whom we think they can be, but loving them exactly how they are today. It’s tough because we have our own expectations, by which we measure others, we focus so much on whether the other person is meeting our standards, that we forget to love them for being uniquely flawed and the evolving person they are, just like ourselves, perhaps at a different pace, but when we actually succeed at this, when we love someone for who they are, we see how quickly they transform into the greatest, most inspired version of themselves.
The truth is we don’t know a thing about the silent battles fought by those we admire, battles that are perhaps compensated by the very bravado we respect, we do not see the pain hidden behind their smile. We do not see the suffering and loss they have endured, but more importantly, we do not know what wisdom is hidden in the hearts of those who go unnoticed. Recognizing this humanizes our role models, flattens our egos, and gives us reason to treat every person with compassion and kindness.
Broken people have taught me more about life than some teachers ever could, (I have even been broken myself) but they taught me hope, one of my favorite things I do is give that hope to others, to understand their fears, and assure them that their dreams are much more powerful than their demons. To dissolve their insecurities and remind them that they don’t have it all figured out in order to move forward, these things are my favorite not because I have more to share than anyone else, but because it is so often that I myself need to hear the words I speak. By offering hope to others, I develop hope for myself, the reality is that no matter how insightful someone may seem they are equally clueless.
Enlightenment begins here, with the sobering reminder that there are no masters in life, only helpers, so be a helper, and empower their soul, awakening to this journey is the treasure, it’s the only treasure because cemeteries are not just where we bury those who have passed but also where we entomb the treasures of the future. Think for a moment, of all the untapped wisdom and love, think about all the books that will never be written, hugs that will never be given, and dreams that will never come to light, in this light, the cemetery is the most valuable place on earth, for it is here our regrets come to rest.
Think about this when that voice in your head says you’re not good enough or convinces you to start tomorrow instead of today, think of this when you are holding a grudge, think of how fortunate you are to have another day to share your gifts with the world if for no other reason, think of this, be humbled by this before you do the things you wish. I can assure you, if you think as often as you should, you will never postpone another day, so think, and spend every ounce of your life in the passionate pursuit of that which moves your soul, let your treasure be known.
Have a great month…
Dr. D Rodger ND, MBA